Tuesday, June 12, 2007

The state of relationships in the US....


Current statistics show that there is a 50% chance that marriages in the United States will end in divorce. High divorce rates are not uncommon to our society, but have and still pose an interesting question as to the reasons so many marriages fail and how such an ugly statistic can be lowered. Are the high divorce rates a reflection of the difficulties so many people face in regard to dating and relationships or are the diificulties faced by many in relationships due to the fear of marriages ending in divorce, which may sub-consciously cause individuals to shy away from fully committing themselves to their mates? All comments are welcome....

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I really believe that there are so many divorces b/c people are getting married for all the wrongs reasons. Such as: I'm 30, we've been together for so many, we'd have pretty children, all my friends are getting married, etc. . . And people get married despite that fact that there signficant other cheats, disrespects them, misuses or abuses them, or they have views that are polar opposites and no middle ground can be reached. In short, perople are unrealistic marriage is not a QUICK FIX - it does not make everything better. I've only been married 3.5 years but I can say that marriage has been wonderful and a lot of work. It's been good b/c I found the right person and we are growing and working together- and I pray REGULARLY that we always will

Wunii Rinpochet said...

Katrina,

If the reasons that you mentioned are wrong, then who defines the right reasons? Once these right reasons are defined, how do they reach potential husbands and wives? It is obvious that there is some failure to get the real reasons to individuals so where is the failure occurring? What about those who get married for things that society as a whole would consider "right" but things still don't work out?

Anonymous said...

I agree there are "right" reason, but that can change from person to person. Society's "right" reason isn't anywhere near as important as the couple's "right" reason.